Ignorance
by Andre Platteel, April 28th

He had reserved a table at their favourite restaurant, which they would visit after seeing a film at a nearby cinema. In the film, a little boy dies. The whole family is devastated but tries to ignore his death and get on with their lives. Thanks to living in denial, however, death almost completely takes over their lives.
She was still sad about the boy during dinner. He couldn’t talk her out of it by saying that it was just a movie and that if she Googled the actor’s name, she would see that he was still alive. She answered that these things happen in real life, too: people die and the sadness it causes can be so big that the people left behind die a great deal as well. Whatever he was trying to say to cheer her up, he was actually making her sadder, even more upset.
The restaurant had an outstanding name, but her meat was too red. And her beans looked frail. She hardly ate anything.
Then suddenly, out of nowhere, she said she wasn’t sure if she loved him – that she felt it was possible that her love for him could disappear. How can love be true if there is a chance that it could pass? He felt her distancing herself from him.
Tears welled up in his eyes, although he knew she wasn’t talking about their love.
She went to the bathroom and returned pale and sweaty.
He said 'sweetie'. She eventually filled the silence that followed by saying that she also doubted life, because life is not eternal, and how can you trust something that ends?
He ordered some coffee and chocolates and told her that they had come to this beautiful restaurant to celebrate love and life. Seeing these words fail, he tried another tack: ‘You know, when something passes and seemingly ends it comes from something eternal.’
‘But when one of us dies,’ she asked sweetly, ‘we are separated. You can’t deny that, can you?’
The waiter came back with a cup filled with chocolates and raspberries.
He tried again, with different words. But these didn’t convince either. He couldn’t reach her or himself. Their minds were filled with voices that had created a conspiracy against everything they believed in and knew was true.



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by Andre Platteel , April 28th
 
He had reserved a table at their favourite restaurant, which they would visit after seeing a film at a nearby cinema. In the film, a little boy dies. The whole family is devastated but tries to ignore his death and get on with their lives. Thanks to living in denial, however, death almost completely takes over their lives.
She was still sad about the boy during dinner. He couldn’t talk her out of it by saying that it was just a movie and that if she Googled the actor’s name, she would see that he was still alive. She answered that these things happen in real life, too: people die and the sadness it causes can be so big that the people left behind die a great deal as well. Whatever he was trying to say to cheer her up, he was actually making her sadder, even more upset.
The restaurant had an outstanding name, but her meat was too red. And her beans looked frail. She hardly ate anything.
Then suddenly, out of nowhere, she said she wasn’t sure if she loved him – that she felt it was possible that her love for him could disappear. How can love be true if there is a chance that it could pass? He felt her distancing herself from him.
Tears welled up in his eyes, although he knew she wasn’t talking about their love.
She went to the bathroom and returned pale and sweaty.
He said 'sweetie'. She eventually filled the silence that followed by saying that she also doubted life, because life is not eternal, and how can you trust something that ends?
He ordered some coffee and + more
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